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Strap-on sex with women or with men should certainly be done correctly and safely because there’s no owner’s manual for it, but you can find instructions and tips online that will help the experience be pleasurable not painful. We will explore the right ways and the wrong ways to have strap-on sex with your partner, be it a male or female. Of course, it will be different with both, but the precautions to take should be used interchangeably.

 

First, let’s talk about what items you are going to need before having strap-on sex with any individual:

 

  1. Lubrication–I find water based to be the best, but some people are more comfortable with oil based, and yet others prefer spit (I know, ick). Read the instructions that came with the toy you’re going to use, because with some materials, certain lubricants will not work and might actually ruin the toy. Make sure to research beforehand.
  2. A willing partner, male or female or both. (kinky much?)
  3. Towels–wipe the lube off your hands and body parts during and after
  4. Pillows–allows for more comfort, and sometimes better positioning
  5. Hand wipes–see towels
  6. Right sized dildo depending on your partner–big, small, have them all just in case, if you can that is
  7. Strap-on harness to hold said dildo–so many to choose from, but choose the one that is right for you

Now those are the basics you’ll need for any good strap-on activity. There’s a good chance you’ll be using a lot of lubricant, because as women, we sometimes tend to dry out and with men, it’s a lot easier to peg them with a lot, than not enough.

 

Having strap-on sex with a female is easier than with a male, because most of us ladies are used to having penises in there, where not all men are. So when having strap-on sex with your lady friend, just use the lube, get her ready just like you would during foreplay, and enjoy the fun, but still take precautions if she begins to dry out vaginally because that is no fun for either of you. Should you decide to have anal strap-on with her, the same precautions for men should be taken, see next section.

 

With guys it is, of course, a little different. So to do it correctly, have him clean himself out since no one likes a mess, and because there really is only one hole to peg a guy in, and if they aren’t used to it, there may be some preparation needed. By preperation I mean anal foreplay. Use the lube on your finger or fingers to help your guy relax, those anal muscles may not like being played with so you have to make them enjoy it which means no slamming the strap on in his ass at the beginning, that’s just wrong.

 

Loosen your guy’s ass with your finger and lube, when you are inside, about two inches up you’ll feel a little bump which should be his prostate, be sure to massage that a little before beginning. This should help him relax and actually start to turn him on if he isn’t already. The prostate gland is basically the same as our G-spot, and it can also orgasm so don’t think it can’t.

 

After that, then it’s time to ease in the strap-on, and work your magic. Be sure to communicate with him or her to make sure all is well, because if there is pain, then it isn’t being done correctly. Once all the preparations are done, just do whatever feels good to your man. Slow and easy for newbies or hard and fast for non-newbies. Imagine what you’d like and do the same to him. Don’t forget to play with his sack and penis too, don’t want to leave those guys out of the equation.

 

Keep in mind your man may not come the traditional way, some men do but others do not. Some guys don’t even get a hard-on from being pegged, but don’t be fooled because they can still be pleasured anally, and again they can come that way too. Then get ready when you’re done with him, it’s time for him to have his way with you. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander! Above all else, have fun!