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The BDSM lifestyle is much more than just black leather. Sure, the black leather is sexy and feels like a second skin, but it’s just one of the perks of being in the lifestyle. Not everyone wears black leather, but it is definitely identified as a huge part of the lifestyle.

Let’s face it, when you hear the initials BDSM it can make a normal person cringe and imagine pain. BDSM is definitely NOT for everyone, even though you may have experienced it even just a little in your adult sex life with little love taps from your partner on your tush, or even some light hair-pulling during sex. No matter how slight, those are still aspects of BDSM.

BDSM actually stands for Bondage, Domination/Discipline, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism aka BDDSM as well. Let’s break it down a little more so that you truly understand it.

  • Bondagehandcuffs, ropes, gags, spreader bars, blindfolds, or any other household item you can use to restrain your partner including electric shock machines or sex machines, there are no limits.
  • Dominance-being the one in control, also known as a top, domme, master, mistress, any name you use that means being in control, they are the person that is in control of everything that is going to happen.
  • Discipline-pretty self-explanatory, obeying your master or mistress, being the submissive one. On the flip side, expectation of the master or mistress is that they are obeyed, and if not, the subject is disciplined.
  • Submission-being the one who submits to the control of the master or mistress. The sub or pet or bottom, depending how deep into the act you really are.
  • Sadism-those who enjoy inflicting pain on a willing partner, there is a much darker side but we’ll discuss that at another time.
  • Masochism-the pain seeker because they find it pleasurable or arousing. Sadism and masochism equals Sadomasochism.
  • Sadomasochism-giving or receiving pleasure by engaging in acts of pain or humiliation.

Not everyone is involved in exactly the same thing in the BDSM lifestyle. You can clearly see how it is not a practice for everyone. Light bondage is often a popular sexual turn on, but blood play and extreme pain are certainly not something for everyone to engage in. Personally I don’t mind a little butt slapping, hair pulling, even light face slaps during sexual play, but crossing the line to the darker side is not my cup of tea.

Now, I’m not really going to go into the darker side of BDSM while writing this, but let it be known that there is a whole lot more to the lifestyle than what I’ve touched on here. Darker acts include blood play, extreme pain giving or receiving, electroshock machines, nipple torture, ropes, whips, chains, cock cages, bestiality, sissification, mutilation, and so much more that I cringe at even thinking about. The BDSM lifestyle is not one that should be taken lightly, you don’t just jump in with both feet. Consider yourself warned and know what you’re getting into before you do, as always communication is key.

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